Wilma: A Mother’s Heart – a Story of Selfless Love, Hope and Courage
My name is Wilma Burdo. I am 20 years old and I came to the United States from Thailand. My mom wanted me to study in the states so I came here on a student visa. During my time here I met a man who seemed to be very nice. We dated for a few months but I noticed that he was very controlling and did not want me to do anything without him. We had already slept together and he knew that I was pregnant.
He kept pushing me to have an abortion, but I did not want to abort my baby. I ran as far away from him as possible and the student visa ran out. I called my mom who has a friend here in the states that took me in and in exchange I cared for her children so she could work. My mom did not know that I was pregnant. I went on line and looked for a clinic to confirm what I already knew was true. I made an appointment and walked into Your Options Medical.
The people were kind and they seemed to truly care about me and what I was dealing with. Hope started to grow in me that maybe I could have this baby. My advocate, Marva explained my options and I left thinking I am keeping my baby. This worked out very well until I told my mom’s friend that I was pregnant. At first she seemed to be o.k. with the idea, but when she saw that it might take me away from taking care of her children, she began to get demanding and along with my mom they came up with a different plan for me. They insisted that I have the baby and then send him or her to Thailand where my mom would raise the child.
I had major problems with this and I tried to talk to my mom but she would not hear of it so I called Marva at Your Options Medical and we had another heart to heart. She began to talk again about adoption and I liked the idea especially if I would be the one to pick out the right family for my child. I wanted a family with a stay at home mom to make sure that the baby would be well cared for and loved. In the meantime things at home got really difficult. The lady that I lived with was looking for money to cover my room and board even though I continued to watch her children. She wanted me to send my baby away. I visited several adoption agencies and liked Adoption with Love the best because they would pay for my room and board until I had the baby and my expenses to travel back and forth.
After many months of planning my little one Angelina Darlene was born on 3/13/18 healthy in spite of all that I have been through, but if I did not get the help that I needed from Your Options Medical I probably would have aborted. I had nothing, but they gave me hope.
I stayed with my baby for two days in the hospital before signing on the dotted line for her to be adopted. It was the hardest thing that I have ever had to do, but my advocate said that it was the bravest thing that anyone has ever done.
My mother wanted me to have an abortion – she was so angry with me for getting pregnant. I didn’t know what to do and my mom wasn’t speaking to me. I found Your Options Medical and went there because they told me that I should have an ultrasound and talk to someone before I went through with an abortion. I was so grateful that someone wanted to help me. My ultrasound shocked everyone because I was over 20 weeks pregnant and I had no idea.
Once my mom knew that I was so far along, she changed her mind and said that she would help me have my baby. She came with me to meet the people at Your Options who helped me with parenting classes and provided me with lots of things for my baby. My mom cried when she thought about what she wanted me to do now that my baby boy is here!
My plan was to take the abortion pill but I called Your Options Medical and they told me that I should have an ultrasound before I made any decision. Having the ultrasound made my pregnancy real to me and I didn’t like the thought of taking the abortion pill when I learned how it worked and that it wasn’t something that would just get rid of tissue which is what the abortion provider told me when I called about it. My son was just born and I am so grateful that I did not go through with taking that pill.
I was going to have an abortion. I couldn’t see how I could possibly handle a baby at this time. My fiancée was already working overtime and we still couldn’t pay all of our bills. When I had my ultrasound, I started to cry. This was my baby, I couldn’t go forward with the abortion even though I knew my life was not going to be easy. My beautiful daughter was born in January and I am so grateful for the wonderful people at Your Options who helped me when I needed it the most.
If I didn’t see my baby on the ultrasound at Your Options Medical, I would have had an abortion. When I found out I was pregnant, no one thought I should have the baby except one friend who brought me to Your Options. Once I saw my baby, I knew that I couldn’t have an abortion. My little girl was born in February and I am so happy.